To be ‘successful’ in the game – whatever game that might be - means that we have to have pain inside. This is an essential part of it - that...
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Everyday life is an exercise in ‘serious pretending’ - we start off not being serious but then – inevitably – we fall into a type of insidious seriousness that we...
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What is this thing called ‘happiness’? We recognize it when we see it alright but we nevertheless have no end of misleading ideas about it. We are full of erroneous...
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Tools and strategies, using the terms in the way they are used in therapy (or what is called ‘therapy’) are essentially ways of creating the self. That’s what a ‘tool’...
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The problem with ‘letting go stuff’ (in the psychological sense) is that there’s actually nothing there to let go of. Because there’s nothing to let go of, the act of...
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The only thing that really matters is escaping from the prison of the self. How could anything else matter? Yet this also happens to be the one thing we never...
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The Extrinsic Self is the self that always resists reality, the self that has to resist reality. The Extrinsic Self is generally the only self we know, the only self...
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When we get cut off from the core of who we are then we become the helpless prey of external mechanical compulsions. We could also say – if we wanted...
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Equilibrium states of consciousness are - in effect – tortuous. To wake up and be faced with yet another day full of nothing but an unrelieved E-state of consciousness (in...
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Mental health can be thought of as a way of talking about how much autonomy we have in our relationship with the world. This is a fairly obvious statement, once...
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The regular everyday thoughts that come to us every day – and keep on coming on a never-ending basis – what use are they to us? What good do they...
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Pain or discomfort puts us under pressure to create the self - it sorely tempts us to create the self. As soon as we create a self this provides with...
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